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Anyone make any resolutions this year? What are you hoping this new years brings? Anything you're going to be working to accomplish this year?

I have resolved to not stab anyone this year.

MagiAwen at January 1, 2014 at 8:36 PM

I have resolved to not stab anyone this year.

That was mine last year.....

this year I'm going more traditional and plan to lose weight. Actually started two weeks ago and dropped four lb's already. dave p

Dave, I went back on my previously-abandoned exercise routine. I started on Monday. People keep asking me how much weight I've lost. I haven't been weighing myself since I fell off the wagon, but evidently I've lost something, because people are asking me the same question almost daily. Who knows?? I just tell them that when they see me in the future and I'm skinnier, it will be because I've tried... At this point, I have no idea why I look smaller, but I'll take it!  

Today I talked to all kinds of people about resolutions, and it seems as though most people don't do them anymore. I didn't make any because I feel like I'm going to be busy enough with finishing up all my goals for moving into the RV, and then learning to make that work smoothly, and then heading out of the state (FINALLY)... I suppose I could make the exercise/running a resolution. I still am not on the "eating right" wagon, or the "take better care of yourself" wagon, but whatevs. First things first.  

Maybe I should make a goal to get my dog to "normal" status this year. God knows I'm trying there!

Talking to people I know about resolutions has really made me realize that very few people that I know have any desire to change their lives. Mind you, most of them are not happy with their current situations, they simply don't plan to change it. And that is baffling to me. I suppose because I'm at a point in my life where I'm trying to change myself for the better, and really reach for my dreams... But the fact that so many people are displeased with their lives, or themselves, but are choosing not to change any of it just blows my mind. If you really don't like who you are or where you're at in your life, why would you actively choose not to change?? The only thing I can think of is that it's easier to do nothing, even if doing nothing keeps you miserable, or fear. Fear is an evil mistress, and I think most people don't reach for their dreams or really try to live the life they love because the idea of reaching for what you want most in life is scary - whether or not you consider that you could possibly fall short or fail altogether.

I just want to grab people by the shoulders and shake them though, and yell, "What the hell are you doing?!" So much lost potential! To think about the people I care about living the lives they love, and being truly happy, just makes me want to slap them, knowing that they don't plan to make a move toward that happiness and fulfillment at all. Such a waste of a life!

Eh, but what do I know? 

Well everyone pretty much knows I'm fat.  I'm not too worried about it but I did finally find the food/schedule routine that works out for me and my medical issues and while I've no idea if I've lost any weight, I know that I am smaller.  So perhaps that is what is happening for you Angela, maybe just from what you have done so far you are starting to tighten up but don't notice it as much as other people.  I find when you are looking at yourself everyday you don't notice it as much as people who see you from time to time.

My other secret for feeling slim and sexy is being around people more Amazonian than you are LOL.  When the gentleman that I am seeing puts his motorcycle boots on he's just shy of 7 feet tall.    His words are, "I just don't understand you, you aren't that big." 

I personally didn't really come up with resolutions per se....simply a list of things to get done, it's a long list. LOL  I would reckon though they fit into the resolution spectrum because they are all about changes.  New glasses, body, hair, car and then some motivational stuff I wrote on stickies for all my walls to remind me to try not to take work as seriously and to not burn out.  Such things like, "you aren't getting paid more....what are you doing?"  and  "Your tombstone should not read: Wish I could have worked more" and  "Are they going to help you milk goats?"

SilverFlame819 at January 2, 2014 at 3:50 AM

Dave, I went back on my previously-abandoned exercise routine. I started on Monday. People keep asking me how much weight I've lost. I haven't been weighing myself since I fell off the wagon, but evidently I've lost something, because people are asking me the same question almost daily. Who knows?? I just tell them that when they see me in the future and I'm skinnier, it will be because I've tried... At this point, I have no idea why I look smaller, but I'll take it!  

Today I talked to all kinds of people about resolutions, and it seems as though most people don't do them anymore. I didn't make any because I feel like I'm going to be busy enough with finishing up all my goals for moving into the RV, and then learning to make that work smoothly, and then heading out of the state (FINALLY)... I suppose I could make the exercise/running a resolution. I still am not on the "eating right" wagon, or the "take better care of yourself" wagon, but whatevs. First things first.  

Maybe I should make a goal to get my dog to "normal" status this year. God knows I'm trying there!

Talking to people I know about resolutions has really made me realize that very few people that I know have any desire to change their lives. Mind you, most of them are not happy with their current situations, they simply don't plan to change it. And that is baffling to me. I suppose because I'm at a point in my life where I'm trying to change myself for the better, and really reach for my dreams... But the fact that so many people are displeased with their lives, or themselves, but are choosing not to change any of it just blows my mind. If you really don't like who you are or where you're at in your life, why would you actively choose not to change?? The only thing I can think of is that it's easier to do nothing, even if doing nothing keeps you miserable, or fear. Fear is an evil mistress, and I think most people don't reach for their dreams or really try to live the life they love because the idea of reaching for what you want most in life is scary - whether or not you consider that you could possibly fall short or fail altogether.

I just want to grab people by the shoulders and shake them though, and yell, "What the hell are you doing?!" So much lost potential! To think about the people I care about living the lives they love, and being truly happy, just makes me want to slap them, knowing that they don't plan to make a move toward that happiness and fulfillment at all. Such a waste of a life!

Eh, but what do I know? 

   I see your perspective, and agree that some people are oblivious and need a good kick in the ass.And to a certain extent that is me as well.  But some are fighting demons that only THEY can see.

 My problem has been severe depression for the last few years. Been in a funk since Becky passed (05/11), not so much that she passed, because she had been sick for SO long, but, she WAS alive. And wanted to live, so much so that she had lived 10 years longer than the doctors gave her initially. She would have lived quite a bit longer had not her daughter's cashed her out..................

Anyhow, after getting some help, experimenting with this med and that, I'm surfacing again and dealing with things a little better.

Started eating better, went gluten free... and I feel GREAT. Better than I have in years...joint pain gone, outlook on life 1000% better. Not outa the woods yet, but I can see the light again. Looking forward.....

Sorry for your lose......  It's hard as most of all us know. 

I'm fat because I like to drink brandy and bourbon.  I'm good with it. Everything I else I consume is pretty healthy.

Of, for sure, Dave. Everyone's got shit they're going through. I just find myself wanting to shake the people I care about, and say, "But you could have the life you dream about!" Most of them are just like - Eh, nope... They actively choose to not do what would make them happy. Baffling, I say!

Magi, those are good reminders to have around. I think the big challenge for most people would be really internalizing them, rather than just reading them. I suppose it is possible that my body shape is changing. I mean, it must be, if people keep mentioning it, right? 

My roommate's cat has realized that he can swat the dog through the crack under my bedroom door, and he's turning her into a lunatic. She sits and stares at the door for hours now, and goes berzerk when his paws appear. I open the door and chase him down, but he knows I'm coming, and he's usually long gone when I open the door. It is really starting to piss me off. Having my dog barking and attacking my bedroom door at 3 AM increases my inner bitch ratio by about 80%. I can't wait for him to pull that shit on a day my roomie is gone. I'm going to hunt him down and douse him under the tub faucet. Little mofo. *devil horns of doom* 

The cats are right up at the top of the list for why I want to move out of this place. They are the worst cats I have ever had the displeasure of living with. I seriously want to do bad things to them most days. On the days they're being good and cute, I can't even bring myself to appreciate their cuteness. I just want to kick them. And the male cat sooooo much more than the female. Some days I want to strangle that little bastard.

There are dog lovers and cat lovers. Never the twain shall meet.

I used to have a dog, a cat and a crow...they all ate from the same bowl and went for walks/flies with me...

Rob at January 2, 2014 at 1:03 PM

Sorry for your lose......  It's hard as most of all us know. 

I'm fat because I like to drink brandy and bourbon.  I'm good with it. Everything I else I consume is pretty healthy.

   Now Rob we all know the only reason ya are like ya are is cause it is way to cold an slippery to be chasing Kez around outside when ya go into rut ............ hense therefor ya don't keep slim and trim cause ya end up catching her way to fast inside to get any exercise ............. hahahahahahha

I'm usually the one being chased around the place with Kezz hot on my heals, snapping her teeth together and trying to bite me...

hahahahaha right how could I of had it so wrong ...........hahahahahaha......... have set take a deep breath get a drink of brandy on me an prepare to run for your life some more big boy ......hahahaha

I wonders how many people actually have dreams of their own. If they don't they just follow the way they are familiar with, hoping something will fall in their lap.

This year I hope to get a job were I can control my diet. That way I won't need six different drugs to keep the allergy symptoms at bay. Trouble is, the doctors dont believe in alergies onless you break out in rash or go into anaphalictic shock.

And I want to lose another 20 pounds of fat.

Jaytee, my friend Andy was just talking about that today... How a lot of people simply don't know what they love, or what they want. It's inconceivable to me. I mean, if I never expereinced candlemaking at home, I wouldn't know that I love it, so would never think to make a career out of it, you know? But not having a single clue what you love in the world, or what you want? How is that even POSSIBLE?? Perhaps I'm lucky that I stumbled onto raising animals as a very young child, and it just happens to be what I love most in the world. I don't know how it's possible to go through life every single day and not know what you love.

I suppose people who have always just been content in their every-day lives don't always have dreams, or things to work toward. But not even having an interest in making a single fun plan for a trip or to learn something new in the upcoming year is just incredibly foreign to me. Even if you don't accomplish the thing you made a goal to achieve, how does one get through life with never even considering the possibilities of what they could learn, do, be, or see? 

Even if you just spend your winter browsing the new seed catalog, at least you're planning a garden layout, or trying out some fun new types of veggies in the upcoming year. That's something! And it appears that most of the people I know don't even bother thinking of something that simple. They just focus on the day at hand, on heading to work and coming home. Perhaps they'll go grocery shopping in a few days, but that's the extent of their goals. 

The idea of such a life is both baffling and tearfully boring to me.

"There are dog lovers and cat lovers. Never the twain shall meet."

Totally disagree with that one!  Why does it have to be one or the other?  I 'm very happy with both.

While I know several things I love and ave been trying to put myself in a position to pursue them, many people take a different path.

People who are unhappy may be people who have interest but the world tells them (as it does me) that they have to get a job and make money, they have to keep up with the jones family, they have to please everyone else. And they believe it!

A good person likes to make other people, especially loved ones, happy. But pleasing someone feeds their inner selfishness and makes an ungrateful person.

To make someone happy you have to know and love yourself. Makeing someone happy is very different than pleasing someone.

Run your life pleasing others and you'll never do what you want.

If you believe the Consumerism lie you will never be happy or fullfilled. I'm living proof that money only breeds depression.

My wish for all of humanity is that every one have just enough.

At some point in our evolution as a species we will look back at Billionares with shame and disgust. Kinda like the way I look at them now.  ;-)  

Be happy right where you are for right now is all you are ever going to have.

Trying to stay happy in the ghetto by staying as busy as possible but it's hard with my major depressive disorder. Just focusing on paying off my land as quickly as possible so I can get the fuck out of here, into the woods, where I know I will be happier.

Jaytee and Rob are so right.